Reflections on a Year of Just Rolling with It – Year 1

2015 marked the first full year of me jumping head first into my Just Rolling with It journey. Just Rolling with It is a journey I am taking to reboot my life and career as an entrepreneur. I'm doing this to become happier for myself, my family and others.

Principles of mindful wellness form the foundation of this approach. I’m exploring, discovering and using these principles as guides along my path. They've proven to be valuable guides as the path continues to unfold in front of me.

This blog is my place to share these principles of mindful wellness with other entrepreneurs. My hope is that these principles may benefit you on your own journey.

I’ve come to believe it’s important to pause and reflect on this journey to —

  • Rest, reset and recharge
  • Redirect as necessary…and it’s always necessary
  • Allow the positive changes that have happened to sink into my consciousness

I’ve also learned that -

  • Not grasping tightly to fixed outcomes

While counterintuitive to entrepreneurs, can be of great benefit to us.

Resting, resetting, recharging and redirecting are reminders to ease off the accelerator. These reminders help me let the "being inform the doing" and resist the urge to pursue fixed outcomes.

The benefits of allowing positive changes to sink into my consciousness hit home after reading Buddha’s Brain, by Dr. Rick Hanson. Dr. Hanson provides evidence based on neuroscience to explain how taking the time to pause, allowing positive changes to sink into our brains, helps rewire our brains to provide lasting and positive changes. This happens by helping to counter the negativity bias that exists within our brains.

With that as an introduction, here’s what I’ve learned in this first full year of Just Rolling with It —

1 — Just Rolling with It is a journey, not a joy ride

Just Rolling with It includes attempting to do what I love in my work, for the first time in my 20+ year career. You'll find interviews on the blog with people who are doing what they love. They have provided me with insight and motivation. May they do the same for you!

These interviews have made it clear that doing what you love isn’t easy. Doing what you love can be difficult and just plain hard at times.

I'm beginning to believe that doing what you love can be a path to happiness. At the same time, I'm learning it’s a mistake to think that doing what you love is nothing but a blissful joy ride.

2 — Just Rolling with It can be a scary journey, filled with doubt

It’s been a scary year. The Just Rolling with It journey has introduced uncertainty and fear as constant companions. I've been working hard to fully experience these uncomfortable emotions. I used to try and suppress, ignore or numb myself to them.

3 - Voices from the past get loud on the Just Rolling with It journey

I find myself fighting back the voices of my past conditioning. These voices assault me on a daily basis, asking things like —

Don’t you think starting the Just Rolling with It journey was a HUGE mistake?

Isn’t it irresponsible to keep rolling on this journey?

When are you going to get back the “real” world?

4 — Just Rolling with It takes time

I originally thought I’d get through what I call the messy middle ground in a month or two. I told myself that my new path would begin to materialize in a comfortable way after a short period of discomfort.

Wrong.

It turns out that a year later I’m still in the messy middle ground. I’ve gone further out on the edge than I ever expected would be necessary and way past my comfort zone.

I’m seeing and feeling positive and tangible signs of my new path beginning to emerge. Even so, the journey is far from comfortable. It’s becoming clear to me that this journey will take years and not months.

James Altucher, a big influence on my Just Rolling with It journey, believes it takes five years for us to fully reinvent ourselves.

Yikes!

5 — Just Rolling with It requires support

I couldn’t imaging going it alone on the Just Rolling with It journey. I’m fortunate to have the full support of my wife, who gave birth to our first child, our son, this year.

My wife’s experienced some of the fear and anxiety that are our companions on this journey. I'm feeling grateful she’s never once doubted me or my decision to start Just Rolling with It.

She understands that I’m not only Just Rolling with It for me, I’m doing it for our family.

My newfound openness to connection has also allowed me to benefit from the support of a—

  • Psychologist
  • Authors of books and blogs I read

I read to help guide me along this new and unknown path and counter the discouraging voices from my past.

6 — Just Rolling with It is about openness and connection

I used to be as closed as closed can get. I thought my only choice was to go it alone. I convinced myself the world was at best rooting against me and at worst, trying to make me fail.

A big part of Just Rolling with It has been to allow myself to open up and connect to others and the world around me. This felt terrifying at first and still feels scary from time to time.

It’s also feeling really, really good. Taking the risk to open up and connect has allowed me to receive the support I need to make Just Rolling with It work.

I recall a quote I heard by Pema Chodron. Her work has also been a big influence on my Just Rolling with It journey. She says that once we begin to open ourselves to the world, we begin to find that the world becomes a friendlier place.

I'm truly starting to experience and believe this.

The blog itself has also been a fantastic vehicle for connection. It’s allowed me to connect with like-minded people. The response to the ideas I publish has been phenomenal. For this I’m truly grateful.

My main goal for the blog in 2016 is to strengthen the community that's beginning to form around Just Rolling with It.

I hope to do this by continuing to build the connections between me and my readers and among my readers as well.

7 — Just Rolling with It WORKS!

So guess what else I’ve discovered?

Just Rolling with It WORKS!

It does and I‘m feeling happy, hopeful and optimistic to discover and believe this.

How do I know Just Rolling with It works?

I’ll discuss the benefits I’ve started to experience and enjoy along my Just Rolling with It journey in my next post.