At some point in our lives, we may realize that somewhere along the journey and maybe even that throughout most of it, we began to think that things had to be and sometimes still have to be difficult. If something wasn’t difficult it must mean we aren’t trying hard enough. If we aren’t trying hard enough, then the things we want to happen aren’t going to happen.
Along the way and in a related perspective, we might learn to associate struggle with progress. If we’re struggling, we must be making progress. If things are going well and seem to be getting a little easier, we may tell ourselves that this is only a temporary state, a state that needs to be reigned-in to make sure that things don’t start to slip backwards.
We may realize that the impact of this approach on our health has not been a good one, as the level of stress we had been or maybe still are operating under for much too long has been and to some extent still is too high to be healthy. We may have always thought of stress as an abstract concept, however now have come to believe that stress can have a very real and negative impact on our health.
Since starting my own healing journey, I’ve come to understand that things don’t necessarily have to be this way. More importantly, I’ve started to allow myself to believe this and start walking down the path this new perspective appears to be leading me. I currently view the former as a pretty significant perspective shift on life and getting things done, while the latter, at least in its initial stages, feels like an exercise in loosening my need to exert perceived control in different areas of my life.
At the same time, I feel that this approach of allowing things to be easier can actually help us do things better. When I first considered the concept of trying to do things easier, it was at odds with my perception of getting things done. I thought that the equation was a zero sum equation and that if I wanted to do things easier and stress less that at least the quantity, if not the quality, of things I was trying to accomplish would suffer. Another way I viewed this was as a slider on a continum and that if I moved the slider to one end, toward living with less stress, it necessarily moved away from where accomplishment sat at the other end of the spectrum.
I’m now beginning to realize that this doesn’t necessarily have to be the case and that by things becoming easier, we can actually do them better. I think that a key to this combination is one principle of mindfulness which, in short, is to spend less time doing and more time being. By taking this approach, the being informs the doing and the doing is done better. It’s exactly this principle that I’m starting to experience that gives me the hope that it’s possible for us to do things both easier and better.
The posts in this section of Justrollingwith.it are intended to help us explore this principle of Easier and Better being.